Use weakref instead of id for DataIter cache. (#9445)

- Fix case where Python reuses id from freed objects.
- Small optimization to column matrix with QDM by using `realloc` instead of copying data.

demo/guide-python/external_memory.py

@@ -22,7 +22,10 @@ import xgboost
 
 
 def make_batches(
-    n_samples_per_batch: int, n_features: int, n_batches: int, tmpdir: str,
+    n_samples_per_batch: int,
+    n_features: int,
+    n_batches: int,
+    tmpdir: str,
 ) -> List[Tuple[str, str]]:
     files: List[Tuple[str, str]] = []
     rng = np.random.RandomState(1994)
@@ -38,6 +41,7 @@ def make_batches(
 
 class Iterator(xgboost.DataIter):
     """A custom iterator for loading files in batches."""
+
     def __init__(self, file_paths: List[Tuple[str, str]]):
         self._file_paths = file_paths
         self._it = 0